If you are reading this, you are probably looking for answers to some aspect of your life. When you are struggling to deal with what life throws at you, therapy can provide support whilst facilitating your exploration of the situation, helping you to find practical ways to manage your own response to yourself and the situations you find yourself in.
We are social beings who live in relationship with others. Some of these relationships are close, others are quite distant. There may be relationships through friends and family and possibly through work. Many of these involve expectations. All bind us into a web. This can be comforting but at times can be constricting, stopping us becoming the people we would truly be. Added to this can be the pressures of life today with others often appearing to know what will make our lives better. We can become stuck in the way that things are and sometimes it can be difficult to see the way ahead, to make decisions or even to see that things may be different.
At times like this it may
be useful to take time to reflect. We normally share difficulties with those
we know and that we feel safe with but sometimes it may be useful to talk to
someone who is outside of your web.
Talking can help situations become clearer, allowing you to distinguish between what is important to you, rather than others expectations of you and so helping you to come to your own decision.
Your life is a journey, counselling won’t give you advice, you won’t be told which route to take but will mean that you have a companion who won’t desert you whatever happens, whether that be tough, scary or fantastical. It may seem easier to follow other's routes but in a counselling relationship you can discover your own unique route.
Safety is very important in counselling, it is paramount that you feel able to explore and say anything without fear of judgement or comments being passed to others. Confidentiality is a key part of my work and what this means would be fully discussed in our first session. I work in a person-centred way, which means that I try to understand your world as you see it, to be alongside you and not to pass judgement, a compassionate human companion.
Your therapy sessions can offer you the opportunity to find out who you really are as, in very many ways, we are all a product of our experience and upbringing. You will be given the time and space you need to explore any difficulties or issues you may be experiencing in a safe and nurturing environment.
Together we can identify whatever might be preventing you achieving your full potential and how this could change through discussing and developing more personally beneficial ways of understanding yourself. Therapeutic journeys allow us to explore how we became the person we are today so that we can be the person we want to be in the future.
Your courage has taken you this far; however taking the first step can still often be a daunting prospect. This is a process we do together and you will be fully supported.
It is difficult to predict how long counselling will last, some people need only a few sessions, others prefer a more long-term relationship. Neither is better, deeper and more complex issues generally require longer term work but what is important is that you get what you need.
Setting up and getting to the first visit can be daunting however many clients comment on the sense of relief and lightness at the end of the session. It gives both of us the opportunity of considering if we wish to work together as it is important that you feel comfortable and able to work with me, and me with you. If, during this first session, it becomes clear that my service is unsuitable then I would offer you advice about other services that may be more appropriate for you.
As a fully qualified counsellor, accredited by BACP (the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy) I abide by their code of ethics and am committed to regular supervision and other professional development work to ensure the continuing quality of my self awareness and knowledge. My accreditation shows that I have met the standards required by BACP to demonstrate the capacity for independent, competent, ethical practice (www.bacp.co.uk/accreditation).
If you have any further questions or would like to explore further how counselling/psychotherapy can help you please contact me by phone, 0777 202 4653 or email. If you hear a voicemail message it could be that I am with a client. Please leave me your contact details and I will return your call as soon as possible. When leaving a message or a text, please let me know how I may contact you, as your privacy is important to me. The best way to contact me initially is via email.